Real Talk

Después del último blog he intentado encontrar una solución para como me sentía, y una de las herramientas más a mi alcance es el amor que me rodea, de todas las personas a mi alrededor que me aprecian que me quieren y me apoyan. Lo importante aquí es tomar acción y quería demostrar que aunque aun no me siento bien y no he resuelto las cosas profundidad, solo tengo que saber que eso lleva tiempo y dedicación a un mismo. He estado pensando en gente y cosas positivas con las cuales siento cambios reales HOY, en mi día a día y por eso lo quería compartir con ustedes, los muchos o pocos interesados en temas de ansiedad y depresión que todo está conectado a fortaleza, positivismo y como decimos en Venezuela en echar pa’ lante con la frente en alto buscando soluciones y herramientas para no quedarse estancados.

Les voy a hacer una lista de reflexiones que he hecho de nuevo, solo que esta vez son todas enfocadas en cosas lindas y pensamiento positivos en lo que he estado reflexionando:

  • Hay que enfocarse mucho en uno mismo, en los que nos gusta en nuestras fortalezas y constantemente desarrollarlas, pero también en las personas que aportan a nuestras vidas, cosas divinas y positivas. Esas personas que realmente suman a tu vida y están interesadas en conocerte y quieren tu bienestar no solo superficial sino a profundidad, lo bueno y lo malo. Hablo de tu familia y amigos y de esa persona especial en tu vida.
  • No tengas miedo de apoyarte en ellos, quien pertenece en tu vida valorara lo bueno y lo malo. Y hago énfasis en esto porque yo lamentablemente siempre he sido la que “todo lo puedo” la que “no necesita a nadie” la que “no quiere ser una carga “eso no es vida. Aprendamos a ser vulnerables…el dolor es inevitable pero el sufrimiento es opcional, que no se nos olvide eso, nosotros tenemos el control.
  • Recuerda de escuchar tu intuición, si alguna vez sientes presión o te sientes inseguro/a de alguien o algo a tu alrededor entonces no vale ni tu tiempo ni tu energía, déjalo ir. Pero he tenido una experiencia reciente que me ha hecho abrir mi mente y mi corazón y se que puedo a hacer lo mismo por esa persona en tiempo real. No tenemos que hacerlo solos nunca.
  • No vayas por la vida confiando en todo el mundo porque te sientes vulnerable, elije con cuidado, tu corazón te guiara. Recuerda que una persona que realmente esta interesada en ti y en tu bienestar genuinamente se esforzara por demostrarlo. Aunque no solo porque te sientas vulnerable significa que cualquiera merece que te des a ellos.

Y para no hacer esto tan largo alguien me enseño una lección hace unos días y es que hay que dar y recibir en partes iguales y siento que eso aplica en todo tipo de interacciones en la vida. Me dijeron que era como un banco, sino entra lo suficiente no habrá suficiente para sacar luego.

Una meta bonita que todos deberíamos ponernos es que seamos conscientes que lo mas importante no son las circunstancias de nuestras vidas si no como poco a poco vas cambiando tu reacción ante ellas para poder hacer cambios reales en ti que afecten tu forma de vivir en ese momento y por ende en las de las personas a tu alrededor.

ENGLISH

After writing last week’s blog I have tried to find a solution and the root of what I have been going through. I have been looking for the right tools (beside professional help). I have realized that the biggest tool at my disposal has been the love that surrounds me, the love I have been receiving from the people around me who care for me and support me.

The most important thing here is to take action and even though I am still not fully alright and haven’t resolved everything within at its deepest level, I just needed to acknowledge that it takes time and dedication in oneself. I have been focusing on all the positive in my life and I have been surrounding myself with positive people that affect change in my life TODAY and one day at the time. This is what I wanted to share with the many or the few of you that may be interested in the very real topics on anxiety, depression but most importantly those of you (us) who care about strength, positivism and just facing things head on with out heads held high, looking for tools to jump the little hurdles that life puts in our way and not let them keep us behind.

I will make a list of the reflections I have made in the last week, only this time I switch my train of thought and instead of sinking into what made me anxious I am CHOOSING to reflect on the things that will bring me back to balance.

  • It is important to focus a lot in oneself, in the things that we enjoy, in our strengths and constantly focus in continuing to develop them. We also need to focus on the people that bring divine and positive things into our lives, those people who truly add and are interested in knowing the real you…. the good and the not so good. People who care on a deeper level. I am talking about your family, friends, and that special someone you may have chosen.
  • Do not be afraid to lean on those people, who really belong in your life, the ones that will value the good and the bad. I make some emphasis on this because I have always been the “I can do it all on my own” girl, the “I don’t need help” girl, the “I don’t want to be a burden” girl…. but that is no way to live. We need to learn that vulnerability and connection are ok and we can’t forget that pain in inevitable but suffering is optional, we have control.
  • Listen to your intuition, if you ever feel pressured or insecure around someone or something surrounding that is messing with your energy, drop it. PERIOD. Just know that you need to be in tuned because you could be that rock for someone else at the same time.
  • Do not just go around life trusting everyone, cause lets face it there is a ton of people waiting to take advantage of anyone who allows it, be PICKY, let your gut and your heart guide you. You just need to remember that when a person is interested in you and your wellbeing genuinely, that person will show that to you. Not just because you are going through something it means that you need to open up just to anyone

To make a long story longer, someone taught me a lesson a few days ago and that is that we are meant to give and receive in equal parts in all interactions in life for them to truly work we need to treat it like a bank, you will only be able to get out what you put in.

 An uplifting goal we should all aspire to is to be conscious that the most important thing in our lives aren’t the circumstance we are in, but the ability to take the appropriate steps to change your reactions and you attitude towards them so you can affect real change in your life and consequently affect change in those of the ones around you.    

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